touch me, please

grandma could have told you this, but research says touch is good for you. Via Jessie in my 550 class. (info in social context)

pacifist hell g-chats

cowboy:

♫ i hope someday i have a daughter who pretends to be sick just to spend the whole day with me.

evs: My booth at the career fair is in between the Marines and Lockheed Martin, the largest weapons producer in the world. Welcome to pacifist hell.

meg:

♫ uh oh, only 4 more hrs of Pandora left for the month.

woodbrook:

♫ Weekly mystery movie from UW Special Collections! Dude looks totally uncomfortable at 1:56...I would be too...http://uwnews.org/uweek/article.aspx?visitsource=uwkmail&id=55578

google kills romance

so true....Tell Me Everything I Know About You.

"now we consider ourselves absolutely perfect for each other"

- Farahad Zama, in First Comes Marriage

a great beginning

by Matthew Rohrer - Credo

I believe there is something else

entirely going on but no single
person can ever know it,
so we fall in love.

It could also be true that what we use
everyday to open cans was something
much nobler, that we'll never recognize.

I believe the woman sleeping beside me
doesn't care about what's going on
outside, and her body is warm
with trust
which is a great beginning.

"she pressed her lips to mind - a typo" - Stephen Dunn

The Kiss
by Stephen Dunn
She pressed her lips to mind. —a typo How many years I must have yearned for someone’s lips against mind. Pheromones, newly born, were floating between us. There was hardly any air. She kissed me again, reaching that place that sends messages to toes and fingertips, then all the way to something like home. Some music was playing on its own. Nothing like a woman who knows to kiss the right thing at the right time, then kisses the things she’s missed. How had I ever settled for less? I was thinking this is intelligence, this is the wisest tongue since the Oracle got into a Greek’s ear, speaking sense. It’s the Good, defining itself. I was out of my mind. She was in. We married as soon as we could.

for wallace

"Affection, I can now see, is not something one has in limited supply like money or drinking water. It’s more like a muscle that grows the more you use it. Or maybe it’s an explosion like nuclear fission."

-from An Affection Multiplier, with 4 Feet and a Wet Nose, by Bob Morris

there's a reason the heart is an organ measured in rhythms - David Sarasohn

Lots of good stuff in A Joint Account, especially at the end, but I'll highlight my favorite quote:

"The appeal of the alternative is everywhere. In popular culture, predictability seems like a bear market compared with possibility, and falling into a pattern is the opposite of falling in love. But if you stay married long enough to make people speculate about your religious beliefs, you come to see that patterns are the point; there’s a reason the heart is an organ measured in rhythms."

more modern love columns....

Funny, Tiffany. Did you tell your husband yet? I, too, gave up on online dating. I think it's a helpful tool for many people, but for me, mostly I think it's artificial and forced and I think relationships in my world happen more organically.

Anyway, maybe I'll try to meet someone in a particular profession. Which professions should I consider stalking?

I mean, there's the obvious ones, but we've already got a doctor and lawyer in the family and I don't think we need any more of those....

"if you love her Ted, you should tell her. just stop telling me you love her." - Charlie C

Happy Valentine's, peeps. Tell someone you love them.

sometimes a glory is just that - tess gallagher

Because we love Tess Gallagher so much - Here's a little love poem to make the day better. Little Match Box.
And if there were two moons, who would sleep when one passed before the other and took it in on its dark side? Wouldn't some extra light ray out around the sustaining one? Wouldn't you sense the two in one, even if you'd never seen them parted? Sometimes a glory is just that—a guessing-into the seen, noticing the fringe of presence when it comes, trying to match its fervency by something as tangible, something only you are equal to.

a little Valentine's series

in honor of Valentine's Day and how last year was the year of love and this year's...well, not...but that's okay, I'm highlighting some of my favorite Modern Love NYTimes columns because they are AWESOME.

Check out When I Was Left to Speak Alone. Beautiful. It reminds me of that Tess Gallagher poem - the one that says:

And did you get what

you wanted from this life, even so?

I did.

And what did you want?

To call myself beloved, to feel myself

beloved on the earth.


That line, I love that line: "To call myself beloved, to feel myself / beloved on the earth. " Well, okay, I guess it's two lines, but it's just so damn beautiful.

social qs

please read this column,laugh hysterically, and then thank the nytimes for publishing it.

"stop looking for a soulmate. your soulmate is a fabric store, and it's called 'frau tulip,'"

"which means 'mrs. tulip.' EVERYTHING in there looked like it'd been taken from your bedroom - every bolt of fabric, every purse, button, scarf or ribbon."

- letter from beck, 2/08/10

Fuck. Why does my soulmate have to be German? And why in Berlin? Well, whew, at least my soulmate exists. I was getting worried.

"In short, libraries exist to give meaning to the continuing human attempt to transcend space and time

in the advancement of knowledge and the preservation of the future."

(pg 3, Crawford, Future Libraries: Dreams, Madness, and Reality.)



"Libraries are not about information - they are about preservation, dissemination, and use of recorded knowledge in whatever form it comes." (pg 5)


Just a couple thoughts from library school. :)

random license g-chats

marsh:

	Invitmars
	♫ Fight hate with- random? Nicely done, SF. http://laughingsquid.com/san-franciscos-answer-to-westboro-baptist-church/

evs:

♫ forgot her license when she went to get a legal document notarized. The notary's response? "You have a pretty honest face. Don't worry about it." ???

cowboy:
♫ i know now what i knew then

meg:

♫ mystery still NOT solved

i found it! I found it!

Okay, thanks to argh ink's suggestion, I went to Hulu and started watching Life. I keep trying to write down funny quotes, but I'm laughing too hard to do so.

SOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOO much better than the Bachelor.

I am also taking everyone's suggestions into account, but I've got to get through Life first, and that might take me a while.

more orange julius g-chats

k8: back from the interview. they've already called my references.

meg:

♫ my sentiments exactly: http://www.sfgate.com/cgi-bin/article.cgi?f=/g/a/2010/01/29/notes012910.DTL

cowboy: lets all have another orange julius.

evs:

♫ Ok kids, time to follow my blog! I'm trying to be funny as opposed to deep. ofcourseshedid.blogspot.com Bait: If you follow and/or comment, I will send you the awful LOTR rings picture described in entry #1...

"i'm not mad, I just have to study" - veronica

story of my life these days....

some communication tips in the age of facebook, twitter, e-mail, etc...

1) Texting someone 18 times before a first date does not mean you know them. or they know you. they do now know that you are probably a bit overeager and perhaps think you are potentially a stalker.*

2) Asking to be someone's Facebook friend before you've met them is sometimes acceptable, but when added to the 18 texts, could be creepy.

3) If you are going on a first date with someone you've never met in person, it's better to meet in public and take 2 separate cars. Saying "it makes more sense to ride together" prior to face to face conversation might again go in the scary column.

4) After a date, if one party says it was nice to meet you, you ask to see them again and they say perhaps next week, it might be advisable to slow the texting down. They know at this point you are interested, and might get annoyed that every other second they pick up the phone and you are talking. They might begin to think you are desperate, weird, and again, a scary stalker.

5) When in doubt, remember my paraphrase from Abigail Thomas' Three Dog Life (I'm pretty sure it was from her beautiful little memoir): Good things happen slow, real slow. Bad things happen fast.

*Also, one should never text "wear a sexy dress" to a date one has never met. This implies said date does not know how to dress themselves. And why would you want to go on a date with someone who doesn't know how to dress themselves? This sort of text is more appropriate in an established dating relationship.

**Also, if one wants a date to call them back, one might consider one's language. I am not against cursing but derogatory words meant to demean certain groups of people are inappropriate at most times, and seem especially inappropriate at a first meeting.