some communication tips in the age of facebook, twitter, e-mail, etc...

1) Texting someone 18 times before a first date does not mean you know them. or they know you. they do now know that you are probably a bit overeager and perhaps think you are potentially a stalker.*

2) Asking to be someone's Facebook friend before you've met them is sometimes acceptable, but when added to the 18 texts, could be creepy.

3) If you are going on a first date with someone you've never met in person, it's better to meet in public and take 2 separate cars. Saying "it makes more sense to ride together" prior to face to face conversation might again go in the scary column.

4) After a date, if one party says it was nice to meet you, you ask to see them again and they say perhaps next week, it might be advisable to slow the texting down. They know at this point you are interested, and might get annoyed that every other second they pick up the phone and you are talking. They might begin to think you are desperate, weird, and again, a scary stalker.

5) When in doubt, remember my paraphrase from Abigail Thomas' Three Dog Life (I'm pretty sure it was from her beautiful little memoir): Good things happen slow, real slow. Bad things happen fast.

*Also, one should never text "wear a sexy dress" to a date one has never met. This implies said date does not know how to dress themselves. And why would you want to go on a date with someone who doesn't know how to dress themselves? This sort of text is more appropriate in an established dating relationship.

**Also, if one wants a date to call them back, one might consider one's language. I am not against cursing but derogatory words meant to demean certain groups of people are inappropriate at most times, and seem especially inappropriate at a first meeting.